From Penang and KL with Love & A Tutu for My Babe

Mummy received a text message from Claire on 10th November.

This lovely lady bought some famous Penang biscuits for us.

How sweet of her to cart these treasures all the way from Penang.

We polished everything off within 2 days.

*rubs pork belly*

The melts-in-your-mouth Tambun biscuit was so good...

Maine took a small bite and wanted more.

0_o

Thanks again Claire :)

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And then...

This Queen was so kind to send Maine a bottle of J&J Anti-mosquito Lotion after Mummy posted about Maine being attacked by stupid mosquitoes continuosly for a few days.

And some fenugreek to boost the production of my milk factory :)

Thank you so much, babe :)

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After I read about Ashley's tutu skirt made by Sasha, I you-tubed and found a video on how to make a no-sew tutu.

Bought the necessary items and made 1 for Maine.

Too long for Maine in my opinion...

And my babe wants to be nowhere near it.

*slaps forehead*

Manage to put it on her and capture a good pic before she wails.

She really hates it *sobs*

I am giving it to a friend's daughter.

And make another one for Maine when it's her time to pan leng leng :)

Am planning to make 1 for this Mummy's princess wannabe.

Don't worry, Sherilyn... Auntie will make a nicer 1 for you ya!

Hopefully I will be able to pass it to you when I am in KL next month :)

Oh, and Auntie also made you a bling-bling hairband.

In pink *wink wink*

What Will Your Answer Be?

After I posted my 'revenge' posts, I received a lot of feedbacks.

Thank you all for dropping by my blog and spending all your precious time to comment.

I really appreciate them :)

I am no strong woman, but when shit like this comes face-to-face with you, you have no choice but to brave it.

What I have posted in this blog are true incidents which I can still recall back.

And there are a lot more behind the whole story which I have let go when I left my marriage.

It was farrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......................... from being a pleasant experience.

I have to say that it was not his fault entirely. (Link to his blog... with 1 post on the importance of his lover to him. His trick to fool girls)

I have my share too.

Like Sasha said, adult's things should be adult's things and not involve the kid.

I... just don't know how to write this post...

I have my own opinion on this issue.

Opinion which I shared with my parents.

And they are ok with it.

Is it because they knew the whole story?

More than I have blogged here?

I don't know.

When the time is right, Maine will know the truth.

Nothing else but the truth.

No bad-mouthing, no bitching, no add-ons.

Just the truth.

Because she deserves to know.

And it will be her decision.

Dad or no dad... it's up to her.

Mothers know best they said...

I...

had gone thru the pain and hurt he made us go thru.

Would I want her to go thru it?

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

And he still has not done anything to prove that he loves Maine.

N-O-T-H-I-N-G

I didn't stop him from being a dad.

He did it himself.

And it's not up to me to make the moment pleasant for her.

It's up to him.

If I see any improvement, then I will be very happy for Maine.

Kids nowadays are so smart and curious.

They will insist and insist to know more.

Kid : Mummy, why are you and Daddy divorced?
Mummy : Because we are no longer happy together, sweetie.
Kid : But why aren't you happy together?
Mummy : Because we have nothing in common anymore, dear.
Kid : Why is that so Mummy?
Mummy : Because we are no longer compatible.
Kid : How is that so Mummy? WHY? WHAT? WHO? WHERE? WHICH? AND 1000 OTHER QUESTIONS.
Mummy : ...............................

What would your answer be?

Mine will be, "Darling, no matter what happens between Mummy and Daddy, we still love you the most and that's what's most important"

BUT, with him doing nothing to show that he loves Maine, how can I make this statement work?

I don't have much time to find for new answers anymore...

Maine is growing up and very soon she will be asking me these questions.

25th October 2009

Maine and Mummy met up (briefly) with this cool mama and her sweetie-pie on 25th October at Tower Regency Hotel when they were in Ipoh for the 9 Emperor Gods Festival.

Briefly because my parents were with me and Maine was already cranky as it was way past her morning naptime.

Barb, thanks for helping me pass the cookies to Shireen and her girls.

Ashley is a very very sweet girl indeed...

Too bad Maine is not in a good mood or she could've smile smiled and played with Ashley for awhile :P

And Auntie Barb was so nice to give Maine this :

Maine loves this book so much... She will flip it open and start to chant as if she can read *faint*

And this!! Leng mou? Leng mou?

VERY VERY LENG!!

But a little too big for my Mini Cooper.

So gotta wait 'til she gains more weight and height then only can put on to take leng leng photos, ok?

And Aunty Barb gave Maine a lot of Ashley Jie Jie's clothes.

Mummy likey very muchie!!!

Thanks again Barb and Ashley...

It was nice to meet you.

And hopefully we can meet up again next month when we go down to KL.

:)

The Day Maine Met Her Father/Revenge is Sweet Part 2

Continued from here.

Picked up Vivian from her office at 1.05pm.

Reached Parade after 10 minutes.

Went to Private Color's again.

Tried on some stuffs and at 1.54pm I received a text message from him.

"Where r u?"

I replied' "Private".

Then we paid for our stuffs and left Private Color's.

Proceeded to Blay to look at some shoes.

Then to Sub as V wanted to get a shirt for her hubby.

Another text message from him at 2.17pm. "Where r u?"

"Sub" I replied.

"Cant c u"

"Downstairs"

He finally came down after 5 minutes.

But by that time V already chose and paid for what she needed and it was already past her lunch hour.

So, we had to leave when he just reached.

When we were about to leave, he suddenly asked, "Oi, taken your lunch?" (NB, so rude!!)

I also rude back lor... "Taken!"

He followed us into the lift. (For what?!)

And my dear Maine smiled at him...

Good girl!!

Show him what he has been missing all this while.

We got back to my car and I drove (F1 style again) V back to her office.

Halfway, he called and bombarded me, "See also mou 5 minutes, you already left!!"

ANGRY TO THE MAX NOW!! "I thought I told you 1pm right? What time is it now? You were late and now you question me back?"

His answer, "My lunch time is at 2.30pm ma..." (If you gals are trying to defend him, I am sorry to tell you that he is lying. Just so that I will wait for him to let him spend some time with Maine. Which is not a problem in the beginning. But again, he was late. I have to show him some colour, ok?)

My reply to him, "My problem that your lunch time is at 2.30pm? I told you 1pm. You think you very big ar, want us to wait for you 'til 2pm? Who are you?!!"

Him, "Ok lor then. Nothing la."

I have been getting a lot of feedbacks from close friends and fellow bloggers that no matter what he is still the father.

I have to agree with this no matter how much I hate him.

I just need some time.

To forget the statement he once said when I was pregnant.

"I am Benny Tham. If I wanted a baby, I don't need you. Hundreds of girls will line up just to give birth for me!"

To me, this statement proves that Maine does not matter to him. Dirt cheap to him.

And, I told him that if you are warm-blooded, give me back the RM3.3k that you cheated from me saying that it's for your work. The remaining money (RM20k at least) that you owed me, I will just forget it. This 3.3k is your job's thingy, not personal stuffs. And it's not for me. It's for Maine's future. I need to keep some money for her in case there's any emergency. He didn't even reply. Not once, not twice. I reminded him more than thrice. He just didn't bother.

Not to forget, he contributed nothing in raising Maine. Not even 1 cent. Not even 1 toy.

Never bothered to ask about her progress during the whole pregnancy.

Never bothered to accompany me to buy baby's stuffs at all.

I really need time.

'til he can prove to me that he really does care for Maine.

'til I can be sure that he will not hurt Maine in any way.

'til he will ask to meet Maine more often.

Which he doesn't.

Because he wants me to beg him to meet Maine.

Which I will never ever do.

Revenge is Sweet...

"Shopping tomorrow!! Private Color's and Ozone, here I come"

That was my personal message on MSN for today.

BennyTham-the-Jerk datang menyibuk out of a sudden.

BT : Will you be bringing Chermaine?
Me : Y?
BT : Wan to meet u and Chermaine
Me : Oh... u mean meet Chermaine
BT : both u and Chermaine
Me : Got money to pay me ar? (purposely ask!)
BT : no money
Me : Then that means not meet me la
BT : I just wan to meet you 2 oly
Me : We go Parade tomoro.
BT : I know
Me : Ok lo...
BT : Wat time?
Me : 1

Should have 'print screen' the dialog. Forgot!

Tomorrow is going to be a happy day for me.

Not because I get to meet him.

OF COURSE NOT!!!

Because revenge is sweet!!

So sweet I can taste the sweetness now.

Don't judge me...

I hope one day, I will go thru what Cynthia has gone thru...

I hope one day, I can forgive and forget...

Just not now.

I believe God has planned when is the right time to let go...

Just not now really.

Not when everything is still so fresh in my mind.

I can still remember what he made me went thru.

How cruel he was to his pregnant wife...

During my 39-week pregnancy, I spent 95% of the time crying because he never slept at home.

That 2% was no-cry because he was at home with me.

And the remaining 3% were really happy moments for me and baby because I was back at my Mum's.

How would you feel if your husband told you, "I married you because of the car, not because of you."?

How would you feel if your husband told you, "You are a crazy woman."?

How would you feel if your husband told you, "You forced me to wed you."?

How would you feel if your husband never came home to sleep on the first night (and the second, third, fourth, fifth) you two got married?

How would you feel if you checked your husband's phone and found out he sent 99 roses to his lover on Valentine's Day?

How would you feel if you found out your husband went for a holiday with his lover when he should be on a 'business trip'?

How would you feel if your husband told you he needed money from you and he's gonna die if you don't give it to him and after you give it to him you found out it was actually for him to go holidaying with his lover?

How would you feel if your husband never once accompanied you to visit your gynae?

How would you feel if your husband let you go back to your parent's house at 3a.m without calling to ask if you've reached?

How would you feel if your husband had his lover's ID in his wallet?

How would you feel if you answered his lover's call when he was not available?

How would you feel if you had to go thru all the above during your pregnancy?

I thank God that I am still sane to this day (Okla, I admit I am a bit sot sot tei)

Looking back, I feel stupid now.

Stupid because I could've enjoyed my pregnancy.

Stupid because I wanted a 'complete' family for my baby.

Stupid because I thought if I was patient, he would turn a new leaf and come back to me.

I am only too glad it has all come and gone.

Well, not quite exactly.

I am going to be as beautiful as I can to show him that I am so better off without him!!

That Maine and I can live happily ever after without him.

Tomorrow is the day that I will show him.

Revenge is sweet, revenge is sweet, revenge is sweet....................

Gum Ngam Geh?!

I terserempak with a blogger Mummy today.

At Ipoh Parade.

I've never met her before.

Only thru her photos.

But at first sight, I was saying to myself "How come this face looks so familiar?"

Then fai fai glance at the MacLaren stroller...

Ahhh... Randal!!

It was this pretty Mama.

But too bad, I didn't manage to catch a glimpse of Kendra who was being carried by her daddy :(

After a few exchanges of 'how are yous', I had to leave them as my friend was 'crabbing' away...

But good also la...

If not, I swear I would have left Maine in exchange of Randal and ran off... Can leave them to continue their shopping.

Peimun, hope to KPo meet up with you, Kendra and Randal sometime soon.

And I just received a call from Barb.

Am so excited to meet her and her sweet sweet Ashley tomorrow :)

I've made so many new friends thru blogging.

I mean, real friends who don't take advantage of me...

Trust me, I have a lot of these so-called 'friends' who take maximum advantage of me.

*sigh*

But on the happy note, I am over that phase!!!

No more keeping in touch with these advantage-suckers.

Only friends that support me when I am in trouble.

Friends that share...

Friends that care...

And friends that are real...

I LOVE YOU BABES!!!!

Heartbroken

Why now?

I 've got no mood...

Stupid Blogger!!

I HATE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

Does anyone knows if there's any website designers that can help me solve this??

And to create a chioer blog for me?

Thanks!! I promise to love you more :)